As a blushing bride to be myself, I know the stress of wedding planning all too well. Finding the right vendors, venues, dresses, decor, themes. It's a lot to handle. The first thing you need to remember is that you aren't planning it alone!
Use your Resources
Help comes in many forms and there's a lot of planning tools and resources at our fingertips. Did you know that there's a bridal planner published in Rapid City? The Black Hills Bride magazine is a free planner for anyone in the Black Hills and can be found online too! There are also a lot of great apps that we can carry in our pockets everywhere we go.
For Isaac and I, Wedding Wire was the best choice. It is another free planning resource that has helped me to keep up to date in the planning process. Wedding Wire and the Knot also offer unique tools like registries, websites, vendor info and more.
My biggest struggle is learning to ask for help or accepting help when it's needed. Realizing there's no way I can plan the wedding by myself, I have to be willing to say yes when others offer advice or help.
Ladies, I know you've been dreaming of your wedding forever. Iliza Schlesinger enlightens men about our craziness. We dream of the fairy-tale wedding, the outdoor wedding, the wedding in a beautiful church, and sometimes it's easy to get caught up in what it is we want. We forget what the wedding is really about. It's about the two of you joining to share your life together in marriage. Believe me, I am guilty of it too! As someone who comes from a small family, the biggest thing for me was controlling the size. I always thought my wedding would be small, just immediate family and the two of us. On the other hand, my fiancé has a very large family. His dad is one of 15, and his mom is one of 6. Which means there are a lot of cousins.
With that in mind, there were certain sacrifices that had to be made. When planning a wedding, it's important to be open. Listen to what your significant other has to say and figure out a way to work together to make the wedding of your dreams.
Compromise. Let him have some say. For me this meant real flowers.
I thought that fake or wood flowers would be nice and I could keep them on display in the house all the time, but Isaac preferred having real flowers. He thought that would be a nice addition and investment, so real flowers it is!
It also meant an indoor wedding, and inviting more than 20 people.
Growing up, I watched a lot of sappy romance movies. One of my favorite series is the "Love Comes Softly" series adapted from the books. Keeping that in mind, I have always dreamed of a small outdoor wedding with my immediate family and running through rice as the ceremony ends. As a Catholic couple though, my dream of an outdoor wedding was squashed and with Isaac's ginormous family.... well 20 people just won't cut it.
All in all though, I don't mind. I have come to realize it's not about where or how we get married. It's about the two of us starting our journey together, and I wanted to ensure that everyone we want to share in the moment was able to attend. So.... we will be getting married in the Black Hills State University Newman Center! The Newman Center holds a lot of memories for us and it is super important to us that we include a mass in the wedding as we make this covenant to one another.
photos shot for my work Evergreen Media